Tuesday, January 16, 2007
Relationship health-check
After spending a night with a friend of mine and witnessing her unhappy life, mainly caused by an unhappy relationship, I shared my expert knowledge in this area with another friend:
“It’s so hard to get out of a bad relationship, because your feelings are so tangled up; You’re too proud to admit it has failed, you still love the guy in some bizarre way, you start to see the arguments and problems as normal, you give up trying to change things, you still hope that the wonderful feelings you had for each other to begin with, will return, and it becomes difficult to see where the relationship ends and you begin”.
But it is hard to know when a relationship is dead, and you can end up burying it alive, or even worse, waking up one day and realising that you have slept with a corpse for months.
So, here’s my idea of a relationship health-check:
1) Do you laugh more than you argue?
2) Do you help each other achieve you goals?
3) Do you share your vision for the future?
4) Can you imagine growing old together?
5) Does your partner make you feel good about yourself?
6) Do you feel optimistic about your future together?
7) Are you determined to solve arguments as soon as possible?
8) Do you respect you partner?
9) Does your partner respect you?
10) Does your partner still turn you on?
11) Do you still think your partner is the best catch around?
12) Do you trust your partner?
13) Does your partner trust you?
14) Are you friends and family positive about the relationship?
15) Are you okay when it comes to discussions about money?
16) Do you wear each other’s underwear?
Results:
1-4 Yes answers: This relationship is dead, its stench is clouding you mind, and dragging the corpse around is bringing you down.
5-8 Yes answers: This relationship is ill, and it’s up to you whether you want to spend the time and energy nursing it back to health, let it die slowly, or give it the final blow.
9-12 Yes answers: This relationship has caught a cold, but don’t worry, it’s nothing a bit of TLC, dedication and believe wont heal.
13-16 Yes answers: This relationship is in such a good shape it could run a marathon........Do you really wear each others’ underwear?
“It’s so hard to get out of a bad relationship, because your feelings are so tangled up; You’re too proud to admit it has failed, you still love the guy in some bizarre way, you start to see the arguments and problems as normal, you give up trying to change things, you still hope that the wonderful feelings you had for each other to begin with, will return, and it becomes difficult to see where the relationship ends and you begin”.
But it is hard to know when a relationship is dead, and you can end up burying it alive, or even worse, waking up one day and realising that you have slept with a corpse for months.
So, here’s my idea of a relationship health-check:
1) Do you laugh more than you argue?
2) Do you help each other achieve you goals?
3) Do you share your vision for the future?
4) Can you imagine growing old together?
5) Does your partner make you feel good about yourself?
6) Do you feel optimistic about your future together?
7) Are you determined to solve arguments as soon as possible?
8) Do you respect you partner?
9) Does your partner respect you?
10) Does your partner still turn you on?
11) Do you still think your partner is the best catch around?
12) Do you trust your partner?
13) Does your partner trust you?
14) Are you friends and family positive about the relationship?
15) Are you okay when it comes to discussions about money?
16) Do you wear each other’s underwear?
Results:
1-4 Yes answers: This relationship is dead, its stench is clouding you mind, and dragging the corpse around is bringing you down.
5-8 Yes answers: This relationship is ill, and it’s up to you whether you want to spend the time and energy nursing it back to health, let it die slowly, or give it the final blow.
9-12 Yes answers: This relationship has caught a cold, but don’t worry, it’s nothing a bit of TLC, dedication and believe wont heal.
13-16 Yes answers: This relationship is in such a good shape it could run a marathon........Do you really wear each others’ underwear?
# posted by Unknown : 3:45 AM
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To me the question always seems to be: do I give up to easy or to late?
Every relationship has rough times, but how do you know if the storm will pass by or only get worse?
I do however like your health-check, it's very usefull... I'll definately pass it on to a friend or two ;o)
Every relationship has rough times, but how do you know if the storm will pass by or only get worse?
I do however like your health-check, it's very usefull... I'll definately pass it on to a friend or two ;o)
# posted by 
: 2:16 PM
: 2:16 PM
Think most women tend to give up too late, and most men too easy...but maybe that;s just prejudiced.
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